"What would your younger self not believe about your life today?"
A simple question from “we’re not really strangers” spurred a thought within me. And though the occurrence could’ve struck me as mundane, given the mass of thoughts I bombard myself with on a regular basis, I found myself in awe of my answer:
“…how much happiness I’ve created for myself.”
It wasn’t what I had found–as I might a passion, or, hell, even a soulmate, but, how much happiness I actually self-manufactured day-in-and-day-out. It’s a bizarre revolution–one that both uplifts, and saddens you, because all around you, powerful propaganda asserts that happiness isn’t self-created. Society has worked for centuries to make us feel as if happiness has to come from some outwardly source: we’re made to want jobs, disposable things, and partners, that make us look and feel more important, until we’ve screwed over just about everyone to get it, and everything. still. fucking. sucks.
The only cure, it seems, is challenging ourselves to make the happiness we want to feel; to create it for ourselves, one step at a time. And on our darkest days, to feel that happiness is the strength to believe that the rain that’s pouring is only part of the sunshine.
But how can that sunshine be created?:
I have some thoughts
Our choices are many within the bodega of love.
Some seek love as an additive to an ever-growing happiness. Others, as a substitute for its ever-present absence within.
Our approaches to it differ–why we’re seeking, when, and with whom; but our seeking reveals that all of us want it. Wholeheartedly.
So much so, that there are times when we give our love away, blinded by the possibility of finding it–once and for all, after so many years of seeking.
And it’s not out of lack of love for ourselves.
Sometimes we find ourselves coupled with living, breathing facades, heavily invested in selling us smoke and mirrors. But partners who are cowards to their true reflection aren’t partners at all, they’re just cowards. (And they come in size, “friend,” as well.)
No matter who they are to you, love is the last thing they’re seeking…and what for? When your validation is far cheaper a cost?
But your way of loving is something money can’t buy. In the bodega of relationships–romantic and platonic– I beg you, choose wisely.
Ahhh, balance…the thing we yearn for more and more as the years pass. But how do we create this elusive thing?
The best advice I received lately was from the consummate badass herself: Mona Zak, a successful businesswoman constantly inspiring others with her 7 C’s to Ultimate Transformation, how she runs her real estate brokerage, or how she started her fitness line, just because.
…Monday’s are made for big starts, big transformations and taking big chances, after all. And there’s no one better to help you de-program than Zak.
If your hot girl summer has been anything like mine, it has involved wayyyyyy too many Postmates orders to Pasta Sisters.
And though my orders have been decidedly vegetarian, it’s never a bad time to reign in the carb-fest with some plant-based goodness.…Or some vegan meals that have plants involved (but are basically a less sinister version of the hot girl summer I’ve been having thus far…)
Whatever health goal you’re currently trying to crush, here are some vegan recipes to the rescue!
- 1 box firm tofu
- 1 handful of spinach or kale
- 1 handful mushrooms
- ½ of a small onion
- 1 teaspoon tumeric (for color)
(watch me and my friend Jackie make this in our last mukbang)
- 1 box vanilla cake mix
- 1 bag frozen fruit with raspberry, blackberry, strawberry, blueberry or peach and mango
- 1.5-2 sticks Miyoko vegan butter
- 1 tablespoon corn syrup (without fructose), agave
(Jackie and I also made this after our Galentine’s date and it was to die for)
Vegan Margherita Pizza
- 1 ball of dough
- 1 jar tomato sauce **be sure to read the label, many sauces have cheese in them!
- 1 medium tomato
- 1 handful of basil
- Vegan mozzarella (my favorite is from Trader Joes)
I know you know how to make a pizza…I won’t insult your intelligence
Still hungry? Good Clean Food is one of my favorite vegan-vegetarian-flexitarian guides!